Desperate to get your x boyfriend or x girlfriend back? Read below for step by step instructions.

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Getting the x girlfriend or x boyfriend back for some people can become a lifelong mission, it takes over their life and gives them drive and motivation like nothing else ever encountered. If this sounds like you.... STOP! Read my advice below and if you are still sure that this is what you want, then follow my step by step guide; good luck!

 
Advice on getting the x girlfriend or x boyfriend back
 
There are billions of people on the planet, what makes this 1 person so unique and special? The odds of finding your 'soul mate' are over 1 in 1 billion, putting this into perspective: you're odds of winning the UK National lottery are 1 in 14 million. So you are approx 71 times more likely to win the lottery than to have found your soul mate, I hope this puts the 'soul mate' issue into perspective.

I am an optimist, but I am also a realist!

Now we need to look at this in 3 different ways to determine which approach you should take:


1. Was the break-up your fault, and was it over something silly or small?

This is the easiest of break-up's to mend; a simple apology can solve this. Explain what a big mistake you made and how you want them back. Do this face to face, and take flowers for the lady!


2. Did you do something bad to cause the break-up?

If you did, an apology just will not suffice, you need to realise what you did wrong and change your mental model of thinking so you do not ever 'want' to do it again. You then need to show that you have realised your mistake and show that you will never make it again - a simple sorry will not suffice here and even if you follow my advice perfectly, there is no guarantee that they will take you back.

Time is the best healer in this situation.


3. They have dumped you and you have not done anything wrong.

Now this is very difficult indeed. Even if you follow this advice to the letter, there is no guarantee that they will ever take you back and if they do, you will have to make a tremendous effort to keep them as your partner. You see, when you are dumped for reasons such as: 

'We've just gown apart'

'I see you as more of a friend'

'I just don't feel that way about you anymore'

'The sparks gone'

You have failed to live up to the expectation of your partner. They no longer see you as a suitable match as you are not giving them their basic needs in a partner. In my opinion, you are not compatible with this person and you should either change your attitude and lifestyle or MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. If you are still dead set on the idea of getting your x back, this is what you need to do:



Advice on getting the x girlfriend or x boyfriend back


1. Break off all contact with the person. 

In affect, avoid them without appearing to do so, it needs to seem innocent and unintentional. This may seem crazy/harsh but trust me, you NEED to do this. If you attend classes or events together, stop going - go somewhere else. If your X does confront you about it, make it out to be no big deal. You just don't want the complications and heartache; you want to make a fresh start.


2. Change your physical image. 

Step 1:

Go on a shopping trip and buy some new clothes: This is a particularly important area for women if you want to get your boyfriend back as looks are at the top of the male tick list for most men; this is due to evolutionary traits. Buy some flattering and elegant pieces that will make you look $1,000,000; this combined with step 2 should be enough to make him think twice.

If you are a guy, buy a new pair of trendy footwear, some new jeans and a nice shirt (as you're never too old to look good!) In fact, if you can afford it, just go crazy and buy a few new items - the aim here is to dramatically change your image for the better so your x girlfriend notices.

Step 2:

Join a gym (if you are not already a member) and get fit. If you cannot afford to join a gym then do what I did and go out and buy a home gym kit.

Your home gym kit should comprise of the following: 

• Running trainers
• Push up bars
• Sit up bar
• Chin up bar
• Swiss ball
• Yoga mat 

It is that simple; Women can drop the push up and chin up bars if you do not want to tone the arms.

If you are overweight, do plenty of cardio to get slimmer - this will dramatically increase your image. If you are underweight, do plenty of weight or resistance training to bulk up a bit (men only.) A full set of training programmes will be added to this site in the near future!

Step 3: 

Go and get a haircut at a salon: go for something that is in line with your new look to finish off your image. Ask the stylist what is in fashion and also more importantly, ask what haircut would best suit your face shape.



3. Change your lifestyle

This will be the most difficult challenge for most of you but it is essential if you want to stand the very best chance of getting you're x boyfriend or x girlfriend back!

Choose 2 new hobbies that you have never done before, a couple of good choices are Salsa dancing and learning to play an instrument if you enjoy music. In fact, even if you don't enjoy music, Salsa dancing is a must experience, the men and women that you meet there are so unique and diverse that it makes for a great experience every time. Your new hobbies will keep you occupied and allow you to meet a lot of new people. I will be adding a list of hobbies to this site at a later date.


4. Get out of the house!

Just get out of the house as often as possible to keep your mind occupied, the more you dwell on the break up, the longer it will take your mental state to recover. It does not matter what you do, just get out and keep yourself busy and having fun.


5. Get more friends! 

This is key to the recovery process. The more friends you have, the larger your social circle. This means you will get invited to more events and activities so it will be easier for you to keep yourself occupied. Friends will also be there to offer a shoulder to cry on or just be there to talk to and to let it all out - do not keep it all bottled up. Never bottle up your emotions; it will create problems further down the line.

The other good thing about having lots of friends and getting invited to lots of social gatherings is that you will meet lots of new potential partners. Now you may think 'I'm not ready for that, all I want is to get my x girlfriend or x boyfriend back' - which is fine, only you know when it is time to get back out there and meet someone new.

The sooner you put yourself back out there, the sooner you can start enjoying life again without any restrictions.

If your x boyfriend or x girlfriend sees you with other women/men this will create jealousy and jealousy is important in the process of winning back your x girlfriend or x boyfriend.


6. Buy a new car! (Extreme Option!)

This may seem extreme but if you can afford it and you were thinking about buying a new car anyway then this is the perfect time. A car is a huge part of your image and a lot of people judge the person by the car they drive (hence why salesmen and women always receive expensive company cars.) Lets look at an example on this: you are driving down the road and you see a man/ woman who is well dressed, sporting a nice hair cut and driving a £3000 nice coupe sports car, nothing too flash but nice all the same; impressed? Now, you see the same man /woman driving an old car which has seen better days - who would you rather go on a date with? Now the answer to this question will depend on your personality and values but the idea is to look at this example on the basis of attraction and improving your image. If you're willing to do anything to win your x girlfriend or x boyfriend back, then a new car that reflects your new personality could be a good idea.



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How soon should I get in touch with my x girlfriend or x boyfriend?

If you follow the majority of the steps above, you should be in a strong position to win back your x girlfriend or x boyfriend within as little as a few weeks to a few months. The timescale will depend on how much effort you put in and how hard you are prepared to work!

A good way to organise the above is to create a schedule and set yourself goals and deadlines. A calendar is a useful tool to write in your hobbies, work out sessions and social events each week. But most importantly: ensure you commit to keeping your appointments!

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